Chinese yoga instructor, the mood of going to work every day is more uncomfortable than going to the grave, looking at the monthly salary of 15,000 and dare not resign, feel depressed how to do?
The mood of going to work every day is worse than going to the grave. Looking at the salary of 15,000 yuan per month, I dare not resign. What if I feel depressed?
Your situation is very similar to my current situation, and sometimes I feel like I'm really going to be depressed.
I am in a pseudo-second-tier city, where there are more private enterprises and fewer good units, and the overall average salary in the whole city is not high (about four or five thousand). I work in a local bank, and my salary is more than double the average salary in the city. what is more important is that social insurance and house fund pays according to the top case, which is done only by civil servants and a few enterprises in our local area.
Since the change of leader, there has been all kinds of depression at work. My description of going to work is to go to prison, to get off work is to keep watch, and to visit the prison on weekends. I actually want to resign very much, but there are two factors restricting me: (1) first, I am burdened with a mortgage. If you want to change jobs, the new job, income and social insurance and house fund can not be lower than the current level, otherwise the loan will not be repaid. (2) there are too few good local units, coupled with the current economic downturn, many enterprises are not recruiting new people externally, so unless they leave Hong Kong, it will be more difficult to find similar jobs in our place. But personally, I am not very willing to leave the place.
What shall I do?
To tell you the truth, there is not much you can do but to self-regulate, complain to your friends from time to time, don't accumulate depression in your heart all the time, or you will go crazy over time. Secondly, if you really can't stand it and can't handle it, you should resign. After all, people work to make life happier, but assuming that work can no longer make you feel any happiness in life, then what's the point of your work? So, if you really can't stand it, resign.
I am 57 years old this year. At present, I earn more than 10,000 yuan a month in a restaurant in Hong Kong. It is even harder to go to work every day than to go to the grave. But in order to live a better life in my old age, I have to roll up my sleeves and work hard.
I don't know what time everyone gets up every morning and then washes up and goes to work.
I have been in Hong Kong for three and a half years. My daughter works in the mainland. In Hong Kong, I live with my second husband. I work as a kitchen in a branch of a large restaurant.
I get up on time at 7 o'clock every morning. After washing, I rush to the station to wait for the bus, because my salary will be deducted if I am late in Hong Kong, because I have a long way to work and have to change trains.
I was supposed to start work at 9 o'clock, and I have to go to the store for breakfast, so I have to get to the store half an hour early, change my overalls before clocking in, and breakfast is followed by a hard day's work.
I'm in charge of frying more than 600 cakes between 9am and 12:00, and the speed is one word: "come on"! Manual work is as fast as a machine, flipping pancakes at this speed every day, and my 10 fingers are stiff after a day's work.
Because my fingers were overworked, each of my knuckles became thick and deformed. Being left-handed caused serious problems with my left and right ring finger, which clattered every time the finger bent and stretched out.
There is also something wrong with my two middle fingers. The middle joint of my middle finger is swollen and deformed. If I accidentally touch it, I will feel severe pain. I dare not say to anyone that I can only endure it silently in order to make a living.
A few days ago, when I was in the pancake, there was a milk tea stove boiling, and the milk tea flowed out and sprayed on my pancake. I hurriedly turned off the fire of the milk tea stove and accidentally burned my pancake. I wanted to pick out the blackened dots. As a result, I burned my hand with a big blister.
I also do not want my colleagues to know, because I do not speak Cantonese and some Hong Kong colleagues discriminate against me. Later, the foreman knew that my fingers were burned. I think she might comfort me with some kind words.
Who knows, when she found the blisters on my hands, she not only did not hear the comforting words, but also said in a salty and light tone, "Don't be so stupid, will you?" Fried cakes can also burn their own hands!
At that time, I ignored her and pretended not to understand her, because all my colleagues were old workers for more than 10 years. I was the only newcomer and an outsider, so I could only be a man with my tail between my legs.
Resistance? Resign?
Once, when the foreman found a banana peel on the ground, she thought I threw it. Her first reaction was to ask me in Cantonese: Hello! Did you see the banana peel on the ground? I looked for it on the ground without saying a word
She added: "if you don't throw the banana peel into the trash can, you just throw it on the floor without any quality. if no one admits it, I'll take a picture of the scene and send it to the work group to show you who is so bad."
Then I said to Sister Tao, "I didn't throw it anyway. No matter how she shot it, it had nothing to do with me."
Sister Tao went on to say, "she thought you threw it!"
After a while, another colleague, Ah Ying, came out of the bathroom, and the foreman hurriedly asked Ah Ying head-on, "you saw who ate the banana this morning and threw the banana peel on the ground. What if someone stepped on it and fell down?"
Ah Ying said: it was Brother Qiang in the kitchen who ate bananas in the morning, and no one else ate bananas. Later, everyone in the group, I said that Brother Qiang was wrong.
I thought to myself: fortunately, A Ying saw Brother Qiang eating bananas. If she hadn't seen it, I couldn't wash it even if I jumped into the Yellow River!
A few days ago, the water pipe in the store broke out, and the foreman thought it was me. I really couldn't help it. I had a big quarrel with her. I was thinking of leaving my job, but later I was dealt with by the manager.
This has nothing to do with me. The problem is that the foreman is too good at bullying people. She was punished by stopping work for 2 days. She also patted the table with the manager and stared at her. All her colleagues were very dissatisfied with her, considering that she had been working in this store for 16 years.
Now her attitude towards me is much better than before. She will take the initiative to give me a share of delicious food, and her attitude of talking to me is much softer. Every morning when she sees me coming to the store, she will say to me, "good morning!"
At that time, I also thought about leaving, but I was originally a northerner who could not speak Cantonese in Hong Kong for three years, and I was nearly 60 years old. Although I was able to find a job, I could change to a strange place. I dare not say that everyone has the same quality and upbringing.
Besides, the general manager of my shop has changed my hourly salary into a permanent job since June this year, and my salary has gone up a lot. Now I have an extra HK $22000 in my salary card every month.
And every month, when the company pays the salary, the company will distribute more than 1000 yuan of MPF, and the money will be deposited in everyone's MPF account.
It can be used as a pension when you are 65 years old. Because there is no pension in Hong Kong, we really don't want to cause trouble to our children when we are in our seventies and eighties, do we?
Although work is like going to the grave, you can only go to the grave. You have no choice at all. Who doesn't want to take a walk-and-go trip, but you don't have any capital at all.
Being able to get a monthly salary of 22000 is already a particularly excellent person among the working class. I don't know how many people will envy and hate when they see it.
Where can you find such a well-paid job when you quit this job?
There are still many people in the mainland who earn three or five thousand a month, which is not necessarily easy. Still tired to death every day, it is not necessarily that all colleagues are like brothers and sisters. So the contented are always happy.
We not only need to learn self-regulation in life, but also need to learn self-regulation in work, find fun in work, find fun in work, which is very important.
We need to consciously cultivate our taste in work and discover the philosophical pleasures in life, which can, to a large extent, become the driving force for us to continue our work.
This job is tiring, at least it pays well. In your next job, can you guarantee that your salary is still so high? In your next job, can you guarantee that you won't be depressed or depressed?
These are unknowns and risks. We can only seek that certainty in certainty.
Conclusion:
What I often comfort myself is that although this job makes me feel unhappy, the income of this job allows me to support my family, make my own life better, and live a more tasteful and quality life.
I absolutely believe that there are jobs in this world that can make money and make us really like it. But this kind of work is obviously impossible to get, and in addition to the opportunity, your own great strength is also very important.
Maybe we all have an impulse to be a scholar and do research, but not everyone can finally do knowledge and research. Most of the time, we only see the glory of this job, but we don't see the hardship behind it.
What is really commendable is that after you know the hardship of your work, you still love it from the bottom of your heart and strive for it as your lifelong career.
Adults are burdened with heavy family responsibilities, and none of them can be relaxed. The mood of going to work is like going to the grave, which is better than starving to death without money, and it is a hundred times and a thousand times better for others to visit their own graves. Isn't it?
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