Shenzhen Buji studied yoga, and his wife died of cancer when his neighbor was 52 years old. He went on a blind date and remarried the following year. Is it cool for people to go on a blind date?
When the neighbor was 52 years old, his wife died of cancer, and the next year he went on a blind date and remarried. Is it cool to have tea?
I know a couple who is not too much to define as a model couple. After more than 30 years of marriage, they have never blushed, quarreled loudly, and made an emotional remark. They are deeply in love and affectionate, and they have not been separated for a day.
When the man was 52 years old, he was killed on the spot when he was hit by a fast-moving truck when he rode to work on a motorcycle.
When the news came, the woman went crazy, fasted, hit the coffin, dug the grave, and wished to go down to accompany the man immediately. Relatives and friends tried their best to stop it, and the children begged that it was not easy to bury the man.
She washed her face with tears every day and shed pillow towels every night. My daughter had no choice but to take her to the city so that she wouldn't touch the scene and damage her body.
On the 100th anniversary of the man's death, there came the news of her remarriage, which everyone did not believe, and saw her and a middle-aged man come together to burn incense and kowtow to her dead husband.
It is said that the plan has not changed quickly, but it is too fast for people to accept. The day after they went back, they lived together.
So we have a good saying here: you can live without anyone, sadness is for a while, and you have to live.
It may not be cool when you walk away.
The main reason is that you may want to see how attractive you are.
There is an old man in our yard, 👴, who is in his sixties. Just a few years after he retired, his wife got an acute illness and left without leaving a word.
The old man 👴 walks in a breeze and talks angrily. The body looks stronger and younger than its peers
The wife has been gone for about half a year, but he can't wait to find a wife.
Needless to say, people are looking for people who are more than ten years younger than themselves, and they often share his second spring with their peers in the yard.
Don't mention that cheerfulness [cover your face]
Finally, I found a satisfactory one, 20 years younger than myself.
Now they are messing with him.
The original house was redecorated and all the furniture was thrown away. You can't leave the slightest trace before and turn the house upside down (the old man and his wife used to be thrifty and frugal).
This woman 👩 took two girls, the older was in college, the younger was in junior high school (preparing to be promoted to high school). Not long after she was with him, the little girl was admitted to a key high school (with good grades). After passing the second line, she had to pay a lot of fees, and he also paid for it to others.
Pick up other girls by bike to and from school every day.
I have to cook for my mother and mother every day (they used to eat ready-made food). My hobbies are also buried by this busy life.
Look at the old man 👴 has been busy all day, but the old man 👴 looks very happy, that's fine.
Who would have thought that after the two had been together for more than three years at most, the woman 👩 dumped her ass and left. It seems that she has spent almost all the money on the old man's family, and there is nothing to gain.
Withdrew, ah.
There is an old man in our community who has advanced lung cancer and hasn't died yet. I have secretly found my wife, but I just need to take it home. My wife got married three months after her death, and it was still a big event with great fanfare. I bought three gold medals with a betrothal gift of 50,000 yuan to the old lady. Ten tables of banquets were held in the hotel on the wedding day, and the emcee was invited to preside over. The old lady wore heavy makeup and wedding dress, just like young people getting married, hugging and kissing on the stage, which was disgusting. His daughter sat on his doorstep and cried, saying that her mother, who had suffered all her life, was reluctant to eat and wear, and even wore a gold ring, which was cheaper than others. The old man, who has never cooked in his life, cooks and washes clothes after marriage, smiles all over his face, hums beautifully, and goes out to hold his wife's hand. Is there anything you can do? Men are so unkind. Women should be nice to themselves!
Less than a year after my best friend left, her husband found another woman to be with. They still fall in love freely and have a deep affection, which makes others seem incomprehensible. They all think that this man is really heartless.
Then I saw her husband and what he said completely woke me up. He said that he was alone and lonely, and who understood him; who understood his anxiety and restlessness, and who understood his illness and suffering and helplessness? I just found a companion, can talk with me, can do things with me for the rest of my life, so that I do not feel lonely, is it wrong? That doesn't mean I forgot about my wife. On the contrary, if my wife has a spirit in heaven, she will also support me. We love each other deeply, and she wants me to be happy even more, isn't it?
This rhetorical question was so powerful that I was out of breath. I pondered these words carefully, and I thought it was reasonable.
First of all, we have to make it clear: who stipulates that if one party dies, the other should be widowed? The depth of a relationship cannot be measured by the length of time. Some people for ten thousand years, can not be together, but can achieve a lifetime of Acacia; some people together for a lifetime, but can not understand each other, just barely get by. Emotion is the least thing that can be kidnapped by morality. it is not only a kind of spiritual sustenance, but also a kind of spiritual shelter, but also a kind of inner true feeling, missing and hanging, only the parties themselves know. No one can judge whether this man is right or wrong.
Secondly, this is human nature, is reality. It is said that life is short and not easy, and it is crucial to live well every day, so why should you be unhappy for a passing away and die alone? Is this the yearning for the dead? How should the living face the merciless reality? In fact, all the thoughts can be put in the heart, all the human instincts, outsiders really can not interfere. After all, everyone has a hopeful expectation of life and the right to enjoy human instinct, and no one can deprive this unique right.
Third: the deceased has been gone for a year, in this year, her husband did not marry immediately, but also waited for a year. The deceased is big, buried in peace, respect for life, the husband also managed to wait a year before getting married, has been a bit human. In this era of moral decay and lack, how many people do not like the new and hate the old? In reality, only the new laugh, the old cry too many things, and some people even marry when the dead are not cold. By comparison, your neighbor is a more human person.
People walk cool, things have changed, this sentence itself shows the weakness of human nature. Your good is like a sweet candy to others, and your bad is like a deep scar to others. If you leave it, it will last forever. This is human nature. Perhaps when the wife was alive, the husband was so kind to her that outsiders did not see her, but when the wife left and he remarried, outsiders could only see his indifference and ruthlessness from the surface, but who knew the pain in his heart?
In fact, everyone has the right to choose. After all, we can't influence anyone's choice, can we?
The above is my true answer. What do my friends think of this problem?
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